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In 15 minutes, she'll be begging you for sex
(Plus three Web-exclusive moves you didn't see in the magazine)

Some expert told us that a typical woman needs 15 minutes of foreplay. That's one quarter of football, give or take a few personal fouls. That's also a long time to do anything, especially foreplay. How can we speed this up? We posed that question to a couple of experts -- Susan Crain Bakos, author of Sexational Secrets, and Michael Perry, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Encino, California. --Zachary Veilleux

Start with Her Hands
1. Hold her hand gently in yours. Kiss the backs of her fingers. Fingers are a woman's most ignored erogenous zone, according to our local manicurist.

2. Turn her hand over and work your way to her wrist. Keep your mouth closed. Press your lips gently into that tender area above her palm. Do this until you can feel her pulse. She should have one.
Time required: 1 minute

Move on to Light Kissing
1. Start with her bottom lip. Put it between your lips and kiss it lightly. She should hardly know you're there. (If she falls asleep, she doesn't know you're there. Kiss a little harder.)
2. Move on to her upper lip, then her throat, earlobes, and eyelids, in that order.
Keep your lips together, your eyes open, and your tongue in your mouth. For now.
3. As you kiss, stroke her arms and back using your fingernails.
Not too hard.
Time required: 3 minutes

Next: Heavy Kissing
A common complaint: too much tongue. Never extend yours more than a third of the way into her mouth. Instead, use the tip of it to play with the tip of her tongue, the inside of her lips, and the edges of her teeth.
Time required: 2 minutes

Now Kiss All of Her
Most men simply work their way down a woman's body -- mouth, breasts, belly button, and so on. It's not arousing because she knows exactly where you're headed. Surprise her...
1. Focus on overlooked areas: her inner thighs, the backs of her knees, behind her earlobes, and the tops of her breasts (not her nipples). Jump from spot to spot.
2. Use small, sucking kisses. Add pressure with the tip of your tongue.
3. After kissing one area, gently blow on it. She'll get a chill; that's a good thing.
Time required: 4 minutes

Start Using Your Hands
1. Don't be rough with her breasts. If her nipples aren't erect, don't clamp down or twist them. Instead, use the flat of your palm to rub her entire breast in a circular motion. Start lightly and increase the pressure as she becomes more excited.
2. Once her nipples are firm, take them between two wet fingers and slide back and forth. Don't squeeze.
Time required: 2 minutes

Head South
1. Rather than going straight for the clitoris, spend some time stroking her outer lips with one or two fingers. That will provide indirect stimulation to the clitoris, which is all she's ready for right now. Use long, slow strokes.
2. Gently part her labia and use your thumb and forefinger to stroke along the sides of her clitoris and her inner lips. Don't actually touch the clitoris yet -- you'll know when she's ready.
Time required: 3 minutes

The Last Thing to Do... Check her for signs of arousal:
-Erect nipples
-Heavy breathing
-Firm clitoris
If they're all present, kiss her deeply as you slowly enter her. Pause for several seconds, then start thrusting. Foreplay's over.